For a long time, I was mostly unaware that I'd lost my hair. In the late 90's I was too poor to pay for a haircut, so I tried to cut it myself. It got so messed up that I just shaved it all off, and I continued to shave my head until late 2016.
I began growing my hair in August 2016 when I came out as Transgender. I'd known I was balding, but I didn't know the extent of the damage. After letting it grow for a year and a half, I realized that I was never going to have a full head of hair.
I didn't mind the baldness when I was trying to be a man, but as a woman so much femininity is derived from the individual's hair. For a time, I used every medicine and supplement that should have helped (finasteride, minoxidil, biotin) but I never saw any results from them. I wore wigs since the beginning of my transition, and occasionally I still do.
Of course, once I realized my crown was never going to come in, I decided that keeping the hair that I did have was too much of a hassle. So I just went back to shaving it the same way I'd done for 17 years.
Once I accepted that I would always be a bald woman I found it very empowering. I've always thought bald women were beautiful, and I even (unsuccessfully) encouraged my wife to shave her head. Ultimately, I came to realize that the appeal of the strong bald woman was a reflection of the woman I felt I needed to be. I have since had my head tattooed and I get compliments all the time. I feel wonderful. Sure I still have a bunch of wigs, but I keep them for special occasions. My scalp is my day-to-day hairstyle and I love it!
Originally from Pennsylvania, Kira is now a truck driver and blogger in Oklahoma City. You can follow along and be inspired @Capt.Kira and @TheTransitionTransmission on Instagram; Kira Wertz and The Transition Transmission on Facebook; and
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